A Nigerian biochemist, Buithat Lawal, has sparked conversations online after revealing her intention to find a second wife for her husband.
Taking to her Facebook page on Wednesday, Lawal made it clear that her decision stems from a deep-rooted belief in the principles of polygamy, when practiced with wisdom and fairness.
In her post, Lawal emphasized her desire for harmony and mutual respect in her home, stating that she’s seeking a co-wife who embodies kindness, love, and strong moral values, not jealousy or manipulation.
“Hey loves, I’m smiling as I write this. Yesterday, I made a post about wanting a co-wife — someone to join me in this journey of life with my husband,” she wrote, adding that many dismissed her earlier post as a joke. “I noticed a lot of people thought I wasn’t serious, maybe even joked about it. But deep down, I meant every word.”
According to her, polygamy has never been a problem for her. What concerns her, however, is the way many men handle it, often with a lack of fairness and maturity.
“I’ve always admired polygamy. It’s never been an issue for me. What I do take issue with is how many of our men go about it, lacking fairness and wisdom,” she noted.
Reflecting on her personal journey, Lawal explained how maturity has refined her perspective on relationships and family life. “Growth changes a person. As I’ve grown, so have my thoughts. I’ve always told my husband, if he wants to take another wife, I support it but he must involve me fully in the process.”
For her, the ideal co-wife must be more than just accommodating, she must be spiritually grounded and full of genuine care.
“No, I’m not looking for a jealous or manipulative co-wife. I want someone kind, wise, filled with love, and grounded in good character.”
Lawal envisions a peaceful home built on trust and mutual support. “I want the freedom to travel for work knowing my children are safe and cared for. I want to be able to love and care for another child of my husband’s not born by me, with sincerity, and knowing their mother trusts me completely,” she added.
Ending her heartfelt message, Lawal posed two critical questions that she believes are central to making her vision of polygamy work: “Can my husband be truly just? And can the new wife be spiritually grounded?”
“Life really isn’t meant to be this hard. I just needed to share my thoughts on polygamy and what it means to me,” she stated.
